As seniors get older and lose their independence, they can start to feel like a burden to everyone around them. Over time, they lose the ability to do simple things like drive to the store, lift a box from the floor, place items on a shelf, or even walk out to get the mail. They can begin to withdraw from the world around them because they feel like they can never do anything without asking for help. Preventing these feelings can be a challenge, but quality of life can be greatly improved if seniors can be comfortable with a little extra support.
The best way to curtail any negative feelings about assistance is to start talking about it early. Once children or other relatives have left home and established themselves elsewhere, it is natural to put priorities elsewhere and ignore problems until they begin to appear. Neither seniors nor their children or other young relatives will want to broach the subject after the problem has begun to occur—a mistake that can prove dangerous. It is best for both sides to be proactive.
Pick a time to sit down and talk about various thresholds for assistance and possible, acceptable solutions. An aging parent or relative will be more open to assistance if it is a planned possibility in the future instead of an immediate need. Asking questions now will be much easier than trying to impose unwanted assistance in the future.
Find out what a senior is comfortable with by talking to them. Stress that they will not be a burden if they require a helping hand every now and then, but express that they could be if they injure themselves doing a task that they are no longer capable of completing on their own.
Deciding on a threshold for professional assistance is also important. At some point, an aging parent or relative will need more daily assistance than another family member can provide in their spare time. At that point, outside help can be sought through an in-home care service. If a plan is in place, the senior will be much more likely to accept help without resistance because they will be able to recognize that they need assistance according to their own, predetermined plan.
A loss of independence does not have to be a traumatic experience for a senior. With the proper preparations and a little effort, the transition from full independence to limited assistance from family member to in-home care can be smooth and pleasant for everyone involved.

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